In the next Coaching module, I gets to see things more clearer and able to sense the whole picture without connotations. Therefore, I have draft out the important things I was able to see and learnt until now.
a. Set goal for the session
The aim of the coaching session should be set at the beginning of the conversation. This will help coach to keep the conversation on track. However, the goal set can be changed overtime especially at the goal setting stage when the coachee are empowered, where now the coachee have option to accept it, abandon it or modify or manage it. The goal should also set for subsequent coaching sessions as the coachee may exposed to new ideas or thoughts progressively.
🍂 What do you want to work on ?
🍂 What do you want to get out of this coaching session ?
b. State the obvious
The coach should state the obvious and get clarification from coachee from time to time to avoid any possible misinterpretations. For instance,
When the coachee are silent and was thinking something for quiet some time, coach could ask :
🍂 What are you thinking about ?
When the coachee are crying, give them enough time to calm down and at the right time, coach could ask :
🍂 What are you crying about ?
c. Address the gap
The coach should address the gap if there is any because this will make the coachee 'see' things that he/she does not see before. This could also help in identifying the 'fraud' frame.
🍂 You have mentioned A and now you are saying B, why is this so ?
d. Perform reality checking
Reality checking is connecting points stated by the coachee to the current situation. The questions asked by coach will be more realistic as it takes into account of the current mood, current situation and current purpose prior to moving the coachee forward to future state.
🍂 How does this affect your current relationship now ?
🍂 What is that one thing that you are currently doing supports your idea ?
e. Be interested with the coachee and not the issue
The coach should always empathize and use third level listening skills to see what is said and not said. However, the coach should not lead the conversation but guide the coachee towards his/her chosen path. The coach should discern to test how well could the chosen path benefits the coachee.
f. Mirror the coachee in terms of body language, eye contact and tone of voice
The mirroring helps to build rapport between the coach and coachee. Neurolinguistic programming skills help in this process.
g. Coaching is like driving a car
The coach should always bring the coachee forward, and not dwell in past for too long. Moreover, the positive questions should be ask most of the time to reinforce positive feeling and behavior.
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